2018 Relaunch 9-years-after-this-post edit: I still hate “creepy guy stare” but me at (one day from turning) 39 looking back at my (just having turned) 30-year-old self, is all, “WHO DIS?” I, legit, do not relate to this person AT ALL. She makes me cringe, and I feel like she was some kind of alter ego, but I am grateful too for having evolved even though it took me living through some of my darkest times to do so. Note: Rather than deleting these posts in embarrassment, I have left them up as testimony to my own personal evolution. 

I had addressed this in one of the posts that I deleted and I know that I will get some hateration my way, but I usually call this “Creepy Indian Guy Stare.”  However, I know this is not a desi-specific thing… There’s my disclaimer and now I begin on “Creepy Staring…”  😀

2018 Relaunch 9-years-after-this-post edit: At this juncture in my life (& I have no crystal ball to tell you about the future), I have no desire to be dating/in a relationship/with a life partner/married or have kids. For the first time (& after 20+ years of caring so much about this as the “end-all-be-all” life goal), I don’t care at all and am fully engaged in a relationship with myself. I love my own company, feel no lack, and – accordingly – feel complete and whole on my own; it is an absolutely revolutionary feeling and I wish I could have known it in my 20’s. More on that later…

To Blog Or Not To Blog

That is the question…

Hi everyone, so it was brought to my attention that because I am far from anonymously blogging that blogging at all about this topic could prevent me from eventually meeting someone long-term.  After hearing this perspective and mulling it over, it makes sense for so many reasons.  First, I am overly exposed – someone who starts dating me and stumbles upon my blog immediately gets to know all my inner thoughts which he might have found endearing had he had the chance to slowly get to know them.

Second, and woah nelly… I never thought about the pressure for future-interested-in-me-guy as another close guy friend pointed out.  I am trying to imagine reversing the situation & putting myself in said guy’s shoes… what would I do & how would I feel if the guy I liked wrote a South Asian Dating blog…?  Naturally, I’d always be wondering “if this does/doesn’t work out, if I do something right/wrong, will I be posted about?” & if I really liked the guy I would feel extra pressure over making a wrong move, living up to their expectations, etc…  Oh, & worse of all, any guy interested in me could very well put on a facade that he shares the same values, opinions & interests as me whereas in reality he doesn’t & has just gotten content from my blog.